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August 08, 2004
Oatmeal and relatives
Visiting with grandparents is a lot like eating oatmeal. Both are really good for you, but they both involve a lot of mushiness and boredom. You can spice up the recipe by adding things, but since I'm in the closet to her (by request of my dad), no fruit is added to this recipe.
It has been a good trip, and it also reinforces how glad I am that I live in NYC. My grandma is really sweet, amazingly smart, and she doesn't look like an 87 year old woman. She travels around all year long, she lives by herself, and she lives a good life. On the down side, she comes from a generation that can't express themselves, has no interest in anything new, and can't play board games to save herself.
I'm making certain that I respect her and listen to her life, but it is a shame that I can't tell her anything about mine.
Posted by G at August 8, 2004 06:15 PM
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so my grandma is 90 and a religious homophobic bigot, but she knows i'm gay. were going on vacation together. the sky doesnt fall down. her views irritate me, and i call her on every asshole thing she says. i also love to hear the old stories about my family's long gone characters, and shes the one who knows em. i think love and respect mean that you stand up and be seen. you be there for her. i mean, i feel like a jerk saying all this. i cant possibly know all your ins and outs. i just think, people underestimate the true cost to EVERYONE, of staying closeted. the cost to you, to her, and to your dad. and you're running out of time, if you ask me. and paying a price.
Posted by: ross at August 8, 2004 10:34 PM
Sometimes not telling someone about yourself is better for you than telling them. Depends on what you both stand to gain or lose from the revelation.
Posted by: kayo at August 9, 2004 11:46 AM
You never know what gramaw may have up her sleeve...she may have been a big 'ol faghag for some fabulous flapper back in 1920.
Posted by: jimbo at August 9, 2004 02:30 PM
After "a certain age," if a man isn't married or living with/actively dating women, folks typically know -- no matter how old they are. But there's a difference between knowing and KNOWING. I think it's nice you're honoring your father's request.
Posted by: Christopher at August 11, 2004 01:38 AM