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December 14, 2006
Member of the family
Whenever I used to date other people, there was always that moment when I met their parents and family. For better or worse, I'm that guy that always gets to meet the parents. That meeting is always interesting, as you can see what your date will look like in 30 years, plus you'll see where their weird streams flow from full-on crazy rivers. Nothing like the dinner where I was complimented by the mother as being so nice, so why was I dating a whore like her daughter (I was dating her daughter because her daughter was a bit wild, by the way, so it was an interesting dinner).
Of course Derrick took me to see his family. Like I said, I ALWAYS get to meet the families early on in relationships. I got to see what he'll look like in 30 years (still cute, full head of dark hair), plus where much of his weirdness comes from (it's all from being Canadian, by the way). He gets his laugh, his seriousness, and his talk from his mother, his levity from his dad, and his love of books from the horrifying Canadian winters.
The same thing hasn't quite happened in reverse. Yes, I've exposed him to certain elements- my sisters, my mom's family. He now knows where I get my fear of clowns, my love of teaching/learning, and why children slipping off of roofs can be funny. He doesn't know where my car mechanic skills come from, why I mutter 'John Wayne' repeatedly if I think I might cry, or where the baldness and chicken legs come from. He hasn't met that side of the family, as that side of the family really wouldn't want to meet him. He hasn't met my very nice dad and stepmom because of that side of the family.
I was thinking about this as he and I were at NYC City Hall Tuesday afternoon. We were surrounded by mixes of couples. Some were in tuxedos and dresses, some were dressed in regular clothes like us. As we both signed our names to the domestic partnership, I realized that he's now a part of my family, and I'm a part of his. Sometimes I think he should have waited until he got to meet ALL of my family before he joined them, but like I said, all Canadians are crazy in special ways. I guess that's why I love him.
Posted by G at December 14, 2006 07:03 PM
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Cool, congradulations. That's a bummer Derrick has not met your dad, I thought he was pretty cool. I'm thankfull that your dad does not fly planes anymore though.
Posted by: Allen at December 14, 2006 08:52 PM
Wow, congrats! That's definitely official.
Posted by: one3y3 at December 14, 2006 09:00 PM
Congratulations and mazel tov!
Posted by: Frankenstein at December 14, 2006 10:11 PM
Congats G and Derrick!
Posted by: Lee at December 15, 2006 01:35 AM
Congrats!
Posted by: jeremy at December 15, 2006 02:50 AM
Awww.... Congratulations! Glad he finally made an honest man outta ya. ;)
Posted by: Alan at December 15, 2006 09:30 AM
Congrats, G! And congrats to the new hus-cub as well! Couldn't have happened to two nicer boys. :-)
Posted by: Stephen J. Xanthos at December 15, 2006 09:32 AM
OMG!!! :-)
Posted by: PatCH at December 15, 2006 10:19 AM
Congrats to both of you!
Posted by: sam at December 15, 2006 11:05 AM
Jeez. Girls, Canadians...you'll date anything!
Posted by: Foxy at December 15, 2006 12:58 PM
Congratulations!
Posted by: Greg at December 15, 2006 03:46 PM
Felicitations! My prettier half and I've been "official" for just under 6 years (together for 20 in Aug.) Shortly after "the paperwork", I answered the phone to find HIS mother on the other end of the line. "I'm so glad to hear my son had made an honest man of you."
And, please don't pick on "Canadian Winters" - they're not that much colder than New York. Where's Derrick from, anyway,
TUKTOYAKTUK?
Posted by: Jim (The Canuck One) at December 15, 2006 04:48 PM
WOW! Great news!
Posted by: Aaron at December 15, 2006 06:20 PM
:) Nice post. Congratulations! :)
Posted by: Yen at December 15, 2006 07:58 PM
So are you now considered "partnered" or "domesticated?" :) Many happy winters (and other seasons) to you both.
Posted by: Casey at December 15, 2006 08:05 PM
big-ass congrats to you both!
Posted by: Chris at December 15, 2006 11:29 PM
Brilliant ... congrats to you both! Great to see you in August too - how about a honeymoon in New Zealand? ;)
Posted by: Dave at December 17, 2006 04:04 AM
what a great post!!!! congrats !!!
Posted by: David B. VanNoy at December 17, 2006 12:54 PM
Congratulations to the both of you. May you have many icy winters together.
The sanitized family presentation is perfectly acceptable, as long as you stay in a hotel and it's not a dry county.
Posted by: copperred at December 17, 2006 08:31 PM
First off, Congrats! Yay!!!
My ex and I actually went and had a ceremony, where both families were invited. It was interesting, but in the end everyone got along.
In converse, the guy I am currently dating is not very close to his parents, though he is close to his siblings and I have already met his sister. My folks have expressed interest in meeting him, and it was been a struggle to get that to happen. I've just decided that patience is the best answer here.
I doubt I will ever do a ceremony again, but I understand exactly what you are talking about.
Posted by: George at December 18, 2006 01:41 PM
Congratulations! Mazeltov!
I have to get down there, now, don't I?
Posted by: Randy McDonald at December 19, 2006 11:10 PM
congratulations, you two! What a great way to close the year. Hope to see you in '07!
Posted by: MzOuiser at December 20, 2006 01:08 AM
Little late, but many congrats.
Posted by: Derek at December 20, 2006 10:43 AM
Congratulations, Boys...
Posted by: Mr. H.K. at December 22, 2006 04:54 PM
Isn't it ironic (Dad wise)that out of your sibs and stepsibs you have the most stable relationship? John Wayne should be so lucky.
Posted by: stepsis at December 22, 2006 08:39 PM
Woah! Congrats! It all makes sense now...
Posted by: jase at January 8, 2007 04:20 PM